How Counselling Helps You Overcome Self Doubt and Build Confidence

“Self doubt can be one of the most limiting forces in our lives.”

Self doubt holds you back from opportunities, keeps you in unhealthy situations, and can make you question your worth. Many people struggle with self doubt but assume and accept it is just who they are. You may say to yourself “it’s just part of my personality”, however, the good news is self doubt is a pattern of thinking that is possible to change.

As an integrative therapist, I’ve worked with clients, who despite being intelligent, capable and accomplished, feel like they weren’t ‘good enough’. Being able to recognise that it could hold you back from going for a promotion at work for example, even though you may have had years of experience in your field but that new job you fear being ‘exposed’ as under qualified.

You will learn in therapy the root cause of this self doubt and challenge your negative beliefs that you may have about yourself, and build confidence. The result? You learn to see yourself for who you truly are.

If self doubt is holding you back, therapy can help. Let’s explore why self doubt persists, how it impacts your life, and the ways counselling can help you become free of it.

Why Does Self Doubt Persist?

Self-doubt doesn’t appear out of nowhere, it develops over time, shaped by past experiences, societal expectations, and internalised beliefs. 

Common causes of self-doubt include:
✔ Past Criticism or Negative Experiences: Harsh criticism from parents, teachers, or peers can lead to internalised beliefs like "I'm not smart enough" or "I'll always fail". 
✔ Fear of Judgment: Worrying about how others perceive you can make you hesitant to take risks or express yourself. 
✔ Comparing Yourself to Others: Social media and societal standards can make it seem like everyone else is more successful, confident, or happier than you. 
✔ Perfectionism: The belief that anything less than perfect is a failure can prevent you from even trying.

A common myth about confidence is that some people are just born with it. In reality, confidence is learned. It’s built through experiences, mindset shifts, and supportive environments—exactly what therapy can provide. 

How Does Counselling Help?

Counselling is a safe space where you can explore the root of your self-doubt, challenge limiting beliefs, and develop tools to build lasting confidence. 

Here are some ways therapy can help: 

1. Challenging Negative Thought Patterns with CBT 
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful approach that helps reframe negative thinking. Self-doubt often comes from automatic negative thoughts like: 
❌ “I’m not good enough.” 
❌ “I’ll embarrass myself.” 
❌ “Everyone else is more capable than me.” 

In therapy, we identify these thoughts, examine their accuracy, and replace them with more balanced perspectives. Instead of “I’m not good enough,” you learn to say, “I have strengths and areas to improve, just like everyone else.” Over time, these new thought patterns become automatic, reducing self-doubt. 

2. Healing the Inner Critic Through Inner Child Work
Self-doubt often stems from deep wounds formed in childhood. Maybe you were told you had to be "the best" to be valued, or perhaps your achievements were never recognised. These experiences create an inner critic that tells you you’re never enough. 

Through inner child work, therapy helps you reconnect with these past experiences, understand where your self-doubt started, and heal old wounds. When you learn to treat yourself with the kindness and encouragement you may not have received growing up, your self-esteem naturally improves. 

3. Learning Practical Confidence Building Techniques 
Therapy isn’t just about talking, it’s also about action. Here are some practical techniques I use with clients to help them build confidence: 
✅ Visualisation Exercises: Imagining yourself succeeding in situations you fear can help rewire your brain to expect success rather than failure. 
✅ Assertiveness Training: Learning how to express your needs and set boundaries strengthens self-worth. 
✅ Exposure Therapy: Taking small, manageable steps outside your comfort zone helps prove to yourself that you ‘can’ do hard things. 

These techniques, combined with the deeper work of addressing self-doubt’s root causes, create lasting change. 

Your Unique Journey to Confidence
Every person’s journey to confidence is different. Some clients find that their self-doubt stems from past relationships, while others struggle with workplace insecurity. That’s why integrative therapy is so effective as it combines multiple approaches tailored to your unique needs. 

A client I once worked with struggled with speaking up in meetings, fearing they would say something ‘stupid’. Through therapy, we identified where this fear came from (a critical teacher from their childhood), they challenged their limiting beliefs, and practiced small, manageable steps—like contributing one thought per meeting. Over time, they gained the confidence to fully engage at work, leading to more recognition and fulfilment in their career. 

Your confidence ‘can’ grow. You just need the right support and tools to nurture it. 

Are You Ready to Overcome Self-Doubt?

If self-doubt is holding you back from the life you want, therapy can help you build the confidence you deserve. 

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You are enough. Let’s work together to help you believe it.